I’m under the impression that I’m living a double life right now…
Since the month of May, I’ve started to feel the weight of my project becoming heavier on my shoulders. I’ve always been the type of guy who’s all-in for everything I do. I don’t really see any other way of making things happen. I either crush my goals or don’t do anything. I have a hard time playing in the gray zone where you do things but you are not fully invested in them.
This is exactly what is happening with my life right now.
My Life by Day is Crushing my Expectations
Over the past three years, I’ve worked on building a book of clients at my day job. It was very hard to start from scratch but now, the wheel is spinning and I don’t have to do anything to make it roll faster. My bonus might be even bigger than last year (which was my second best bonus in 13 years working). This is a very good thing as it will probably be my last one!
The only problem I see with that is I am gratified for the work I do and feel good about it. Since I’m a results driven individual, my mind tends to give more importance to things I do with success. Therefore, the more I perform at work, the more time and energy is required there and the less is used toward my RV project.
On the other hand, it gives me a great opportunity to settle my plan C when I come back from my trip. Since I’m pretty rational with all my decisions, I’ve setup three scenarios when I arrive home:
Plan A: My sites are booming and I don’t have to go back to work anymore.
Plan B: My sites are doing okay, and I can come back into the same industry but self-employed to make more money.
Plan C: I’m totally broke and I have to go back to my previous job and start all over again.
Chances are that plans C will never happen, but at least, I’m now fully secured that my employer will want me back badly since I’m outperforming most of my peers.
My Life by Night Requires More than Expected
As you know, once I put my suit away in the walk-in closet, I transform myself into either a geek in his basement working on his websites or either as a coach managing a competitive U10 soccer team. Now, since my day job is rolling, it requires some evening work for my day job instead of blogging.
Competitive soccer requires me to drive outside our city to play games and tournaments. When I arrive home, I’m not exactly in the mood to work until 1am…
Finally, the things we want to achieve with our websites are numerous. We recently started to create stock cards for our membership website. It is a great idea and the members love them, but it requires additional time once again.
Here’s the Lesson I’ve Learned from all this
Having dreams is the most important thing in life. It doesn’t really matter what your dreams are. They can be incredible or super simple, as long as you think about them at night and are eager to achieve them when you awake each morning.
Unfortunately, if you want to achieve your dreams; the road to your dreams is a hard path to follow. Making efforts for a few days, a few weeks or even a few months is relatively easy, but changing your whole lifestyle toward achieving your goals is much harder. This is what I’m experiencing right now. For another 11 months, I’ll have to play with a double life where I’m a good employee by day and a hard working entrepreneur by night.
But the reward is better than the sacrifice. Jason from Dividend Mantra is a great source of inspiration. For many years, he worked on changing his lifestyle to reach financial freedom. Today, he works on his own terms and he is not dependent on anyone. This wasn’t easy and it didn’t happen overnight, but he made it.
Pat from Smart Passive Income is also another of my inspirations. I’ve met Pat a few times and what amazed me was his ability to focus on his projects. He works hard until what he shows is almost perfect.
Don’t quit… just yet
The second lesson I learned is to never quit. Set your goals, write down a plan to achieve them and then, never quit. Following the plan is the only thing that matters. As long as I follow the plan, I don’t second guess my decisions and I keep going forward.
All I want to tell you this morning is that you should never quit on your dreams. Even when it seems very tough, it’s only for a short period of time. One day, I really want to be like one of those guys, this project is not starting tomorrow, it is already started…
Dividend Mantra
Mike,
Thanks for the kind mention!
You’re absolutely right: It’s imperative that you don’t give up when there’s something out there that you really want. The right combination of hard work, persistence, and perseverance can allow for incredible things to happen.
I get emails all the time asking how I’m now earning so much money from working online, but you can go back just two years ago and see that it was only a few hundred bucks a month. If I would have gave up then, I’d never be where I’m at now. Have a plan, work hard at it, and you’ll be surprised at what’s possible.
I think you’ll end up with Plan A! 🙂
Best regards.
DivGuy
Hey Jason!
you are right; making money online is not easier than making money “in the real world”. It takes time, patience and hard work!
Cheers,
Mike
Dividend Beginner
Hey TDG,
This hits home for me a bit. I’m having more difficulty as time goes on to work as hard as I have been on some projects, a bit of a “burn out” feeling. Hopefully taking a bit of time to relax and try to get a fresh perspective will work in these cases. I wish you the best of luck with your projects, and for things to roll smoothly for you.
Best regards
DB
DivGuy
Hey DB!
I’ve spent the whole weekend Rving for two runs with my family. On Saturday, my wife did a 5K, my oldest son a 2k trail and I did 9k trail. On Sunday, my wife and I ran 10k and my daughter and son 1K. Spending the whole weekend in nature and running was a pure cure against this stress!
Maybe you can try it too; running is the best anti-burn-out I know 🙂
Cheers,
Mike
John
Glad to see you are sticking with your goals. We have a great plan in place and I am certain you will succeed.
I also struggle with extra activities outside my work and building out my websites. I coach 2 travel baseball teams and know exactly what you mean about the time. It is a huge time constraint and I have thought many times about giving it up. In the end I do it for my two boys which makes it worth it.
Best of luck!
DivGuy
Hey John!
I played baseball until I was 16; such a great experience!
Each year, I tell myself it’s the last one I coach, but I can’t quit when the season starts over again! hahaha!
Cheers,
Mike
Dividend Diplomats
Mike,
Man do I love the post. It is a topic that resonates in the majority of the other people in the community because most of us have not hit the launch off point. Jason went through it for many years before he decided to jump all into his blog and website. But as long as you are working as an employee and running websites at night, you are going to have those days/evenings where you ask yourself “What he heck am I doing?” “Is it all even worth it?” Chances are, you are fired up about something and taking the rest of the night off cools down the emotions and buries those thoughts for a little. Your title says it all. Don’t give up. Don’t succumb to the thoughts and quit. Nothing in life comes easy, especially when you are most likely altering your lifestyle in the way that many of us are. Financial freedom, Plan A, will be so satisfying when you hit it because of the hard work and sweat you put in all of those years to reach it.
Sorry for the mini-rant here, brought the emotions and the fight out of me. That’s how you know you have a great article 🙂 Tip of the cap. Keep up the great work Mike and thanks for inspiring me to keep on chugging along and stay on the path.
Bert
DivGuy
Hey Bert!
thx for sharing this on the blog, I feel less alone now! It’s hard to keep going, but hell, there are no other way, right?
Keep Crankin’
Cheers,
Mike